Owe No Man Anything But To Love Him

So often we feel obligated or feel like we have to do something (especially when they did something for us in the past). We're in a constant tit for tat game. And it's completely silly. 

We're obsessed with making decisions based on how the other person will feel. And yes, people's feelings do matter, but we're letting that notion control us. And do you see how completely separated that is from our feelings and what our gut is telling us? It's just nuts. 

There is an awfully big difference between doing something that you do not want to do because you think it's what you should be doing and doing something that you do not want to do because it's what they think you should be doing. I am not saying that we should never do something we don't want to do, but we should darn well believe we're doing it for a reason if we are. 

Here's the thing: people are going to start taking responsibility for their own decisions. You are not responsible for someone else's feelings. No wonder so many of us are so co-dependent. We're driven by this need to pacify or take care of something that is none of our business. We need to mind our business and worry about us. 

You know what else? It is okay for people to feel things. It's okay for people to feel angry, and it's okay for people to feel angry or disappointed in response to something you've done (even if you made the right call). People are allowed to feel. People have to be allowed to feel. Just don't be driven by those things. 

Your job is to love them through it. Your love is the most important thing you can do for someone. Let your love drive you, not your obligation. Because sometimes loving someone is letting them work through their own muck--even though it might be uncomfortable to watch, even though it might break your heart. It's okay. 

So love, love away, but follow your own intuition what you should and should not be meddling in. Listen to your gut and let it be your guide in utmost love. 

Photo Story: One of my favorite mountain towns is Breckenridge, Colorado. It's one of the most cozy and sweet towns I've been to. I've been here a handful of times with different people; I just really think it's hard to beat. I'm not a top-notch skier, but I do really enjoy it. And unless you're a pretty skilled skier, you can really only be responsible for getting your own self down the mountain. If you ever get a chance, head to Breckenridge. You won't be disappointed. 

x Keely